Are You Creating Conflict Triangles?

Dare 11 -- Owning What is Ours to Own

Sitting in a counselor’s office as an early 30-something, I remember the psychologist introducing me to the conflict triangle.  It appeared that I had been part of one since childhood without even understanding how I was participating.  What I discovered was that when the two people in my life were in conflict, I was the emotional support for […]

You Want Me to Respect My Kid?

Dare #6

Just the idea that we should respect our kids can rile any parent.  After all, what we really want is for our kids to respect us and typically that doesn’t happen often as our kids move into the teen years.   Many have told me it is counter cultural, and as one mom put it, counter instinctive. […]

Validation is SO important When Interacting With Our Teens

Dare 13

For those of you who have been following along with the blog dares and the book, you’ll notice that I’m taking a leap out of sequence.   The word validation has been cropping up everywhere I turn for the past two weeks and it is a piece of Dare 13.  It’s something that I’ve struggled […]

How Does Your Family Communicate?

Dare 5

It’s easy as parents to try to communicate with all our children the same.  And typically, we tend to communicate with our kids in the way we grew up.  Some families look at communication as a way to make sure their kids are tough, resilient, and able to withstand whatever life sends their way. But should we put more […]

How Do You Measure Up As a Parent?

Dare #1

Over the years it has been interesting to interact with parents who have kids that are just moving into the middle school years.  I see many confident in their parenting.  Whatever they have been doing so far seems to be working and they feel like they will glide through the junior high and high school […]

Seizing the Moment

Sitting in my kitchen drinking my morning tea, I had my to-do list in hand. All those things I didn’t get done last week!! If you are like me, sometimes I obsess over what hasn’t gotten accomplished. Life is good when things are being removed from my to-do list. It’s finished…time to celebrate by marking […]