Are You Creating Conflict Triangles?

Dare 11 -- Owning What is Ours to Own

Sitting in a counselor’s office as an early 30-something, I remember the psychologist introducing me to the conflict triangle.  It appeared that I had been part of one since childhood without even understanding how I was participating.  What I discovered was that when the two people in my life were in conflict, I was the emotional support for […]

When Our Teens Are Disrespectful

Setting Boundaries with Our Teens

My friend and I joke about our spiritual gift of driving.  Hauling teens from school or activities can be a great time to connect.  However, sometimes our teens can take advantage of our generosity.  I had a mother share with me recently.   “I just lost it!” she admitted. We role played a different scenario. […]

Looking for Family Balance?

Steps to Reduce the Stress in Your Home and Build Team Relationship

  Sitting at her desk in the master bedroom Kristin was thankful for the silence. Ted had agreed to focus on the kids and food for the day while she took time to pray and seek God’s guidance.  She had shared with a friend the frenzy that had seemed to creep into their home since the start of school. […]

What to Do When Dad is Out-of-Control

Creating Safety in Our Home

It has been amazing to me the number of women who have shared stories of out-of-control behavior from their spouses.  Their teen does something to upset dad and the war is on. It makes me sad. And I’m betting that if you are in that situation in your home, then your feelings are even more […]

Struggling with Life Balance?

  Reading through With All Due Respect assignment for her small group on Tuesday morning, Alison was surprised at the emotion she was feeling. Her kids had started playing soccer at such a young age. But, oh, how she would have done things differently if she could rewind the clock. She wished she had planned their family time […]

Who’s Controlling Your Family?

Maybe It's Time for a Conversation

Coming home from a 6:00 am men’s group at our church, my husband put his book on the kitchen counter. “Wow! This morning really made me think about how I grew up and the impact moms have on their kid’s lives. They played a video of a Mom’s letter to her son and I felt […]