Are You Creating Conflict Triangles?

Dare 11 -- Owning What is Ours to Own

Sitting in a counselor’s office as an early 30-something, I remember the psychologist introducing me to the conflict triangle.  It appeared that I had been part of one since childhood without even understanding how I was participating.  What I discovered was that when the two people in my life were in conflict, I was the emotional support for […]

Who Gets the Blame in Your House?

Dare 10 - 7 Steps to Get Out of the Blame Game

Let’s face it, as moms we know our kids.  We know what they are capable of and what they might do and most likely what they won’t do.  Hopefully we understand their hearts and what motivates them. And we definitely know which of our kids is most likely to cause trouble in the family.   I can’t tell […]

You Want Me to Respect My Kid?

Dare #6

Just the idea that we should respect our kids can rile any parent.  After all, what we really want is for our kids to respect us and typically that doesn’t happen often as our kids move into the teen years.   Many have told me it is counter cultural, and as one mom put it, counter instinctive. […]

Does Your Kid Make You Feel Like You Can Do Nothing Right?

Last week I felt like everything I did for one of my kids was met with sarcasm, frustration, or anger.  The typical jokes we had between us, the acts of kindness I did, and every time I seemed to open my mouth it was met with a snarl of “you never…” or “you always…”.  I […]

It’s Never Too Late to Right the Wrongs

This past week something transpired in our home that helped me realize how our words and actions can have devastating impact on our kids for years to come.  Keep in mind I have four kids who have grown up under our roof who are now 20-Somethings. Most people would have described us as a loving Christian […]

What to Do When Dad is Out-of-Control

Creating Safety in Our Home

It has been amazing to me the number of women who have shared stories of out-of-control behavior from their spouses.  Their teen does something to upset dad and the war is on. It makes me sad. And I’m betting that if you are in that situation in your home, then your feelings are even more […]