Should I Share My Shame-Filled Secrets With My Teens?

Let’s face it, we all have regrets from the past.  Those deep places in our very soul that tend to haunt us from time to time.  They rear their ugly head at the worst possible moment. These are the things we hold on tightly to, hoping that no one will ever find out the truth. […]

What Adults Have Influence With Your Teens?

Seven Things to Consider to Keep Your Teens in Church (Part 1)

  Did you know that teenagers who seem to have the best success moving into healthy adulthood have a “community” of adults walking beside them? The first place to look for that community is obviously at home.  Are both you and your spouse invested in your children in a positive way—daily? If not, find ways […]

Owning What Is Ours To Own

Relationship Triangles

Sitting in a counselor’s office as an early 30-something, I remember the psychologist introducing me to the conflict triangle.  It appeared that I had been part of one since childhood without even understanding how I was participating.  What I discovered was that when the two people in my life were in conflict, I was the emotional support for both […]

Time to Tame the Beast in Your Teen?

Dealing with Emotional Outbursts

  Let’s face it, most of us have emotional outbursts from time to time.  Even if not openly for everyone to hear, at least internally where we tell ourselves that the person who has “hurt” us is in the wrong.  Hopefully we don’t go into this mode as often as our teens, but we do have […]

Can I Love My Kids Too Much?

Several years ago, when I was at my wits end with one of my kids, someone recommended  a book  When I Lay My Isaac Down by Carol Kent.  I’ve often thought about that title and how it applies to our daily lives, especially as we parent. With more than a decade since I read her book, […]

Why Validation is SO Important

The word validation has been cropping up everywhere I turn for the past two weeks and it is a piece of Dare 13.  It’s something that I’ve struggled with for years.  I always thought empathy and validation were essentially the same thing.  I tended to be pretty good on the empathy front so I assumed that […]