Asking Your Kid–Why Did You Do That?

I can remember as a child hearing those words of frustration and accusation with a tone that said I had done something wrong or stupid. “Why did you do that?”  And like most kids, I typically responded with something like, “I don’t know.” And then I would be told that I was being sent to […]

The Power of the Word “You”

Sitting in a workshop several weeks ago with a group of women I witnessed the power in the word “you”.  There were tears in women’s eyes as they heard words of affirmation spoken over them after they shared a story or A-Ha!  “You were brave to step into that situation in the moment.” “You showed […]

When Tempers Flare – Part 2

In looking at taming the wild beast within us when our temper starts to flare so that we don’t wound the ones we love, we need to take a step back and look at the goal we want in our relationships. As you think of your own conflicts, what is the goal? To get your […]

When Tempers Flare – Part I

Nothing spurs me on more than interacting with a wife and mother who “gets it”.  Notice I didn’t say, “always gets it right”.  It’s just that she recognizes that something needs to change in the communication with her husband and her kids.  And if this mom had teenagers, I’m guessing she would become painfully aware […]

6 Things I Learned from an Embarrassing Kid Moment

Have you ever wished you were invisible because your tween or teen did something that embarrassed you?  Trust me when I say that I’ve been there on more than one occasion.  With four teens under my roof at one time, there was plenty of opportunity for me to encounter situations where my teens didn’t use […]

Everything is Great With The Kids…

My family is drowning in grief this week. Three funerals to attend within the span of eight days. One was a blessing. We celebrated the life of my dear Aunt Lois who passed at the age of 79. Having been in the hospital 32 times over the past three years, it was easy to let […]