Doing Life From the Platform of Respect

A number of years ago my husband taught a junior high boys small group.  One of the topics that would always come up was how to treat members of the opposite sex.  I remember one of his lines well: “Remember, you don’t know whose wife you are dating.  Treat your girlfriend the way you hope […]

Owning What Is Ours To Own

Relationship Triangles

Sitting in a counselor’s office as an early 30-something, I remember the psychologist introducing me to the conflict triangle.  It appeared that I had been part of one since childhood without even understanding how I was participating.  What I discovered was that when the two people in my life were in conflict, I was the emotional support for both […]

Are You Making Sense of Your Truth for Your Kids?

Dare 30 - Taking Off the Mask

I remember a time when my kids were excited about extended family coming to our house to stay for a week.  It was an annual occurrence that would be a happy yet dreaded time of the year for me.  On the one hand, I was looking forward to the time to reconnect, but as time […]

Tired of the Conflict?

Dare 28

One of the things we sometimes forget as parents is that our brain is hardwired for conflict.  Spend some time with a 2-year old and you will see the way he is willing to stand up for his rights.  “No” seems to be his word of choice as he separates from mom and learns that […]

Are You a Mom of Strength and Dignity?

Dare 18 - Keeping Your Kids from Walking all Over You

Dare 18 in With All Due Respect seems to be a favorite among many of the women who read the book.  Every time I’ve led a group, as soon as moms read it they immediately want to talk about it. We laugh because that is the mom we want to be. Why? Most tell me […]

When Our Teens Are Disrespectful

Setting Boundaries with Our Teens

My friend and I joke about our spiritual gift of driving.  Hauling teens from school or activities can be a great time to connect.  However, sometimes our teens can take advantage of our generosity.  I had a mother share with me recently.   “I just lost it!” she admitted. We role played a different scenario. […]