How Important Is It That My Teens Clean Their Room?

Whether or not to make a teen clean their room is a topic that almost always comes to the surface whenever I lead parenting groups.  There are usually parents in both camps–‘it’s not a hill worth dying on’ versus the ‘I can’t stand the mess’ moms. Do you just close the door and hope that […]

Are You a Mom of Strength and Dignity?

Dare 18 - Keeping Your Kids from Walking all Over You

Dare 18 in With All Due Respect seems to be a favorite among many of the women who read the book.  Every time I’ve led a group, as soon as moms read it they immediately want to talk about it. We laugh because that is the mom we want to be. Why? Most tell me […]

Rules and Consequences Not Working?

Dare 16 - Learn to Pause

A very wise counselor said to me one time, “If it isn’t a matter of life and death, it doesn’t need to be fixed right now.” Oh, I wish I had heard those words years before and really grasped the true meaning. The most common thing I hear from parents is that a kid knows the consequence […]

6 Things You Can Do When Your Teens Don’t Listen

Dare 14 - Pushing the Reset Button on Parenting

Do you ever feel stuck with your kids?  Are you tired of hounding them to do something only to find that you have become the barbaric person you swore you would never be?  The volume in the room raises, your voice takes on a gruff “I mean it” tone, your hands are on your hips in a power stance, […]

Is it Time for a Reset in Your Parenting?

Dare 4

I don’t know about you, but I seem to do my best parenting after the fact.  Maybe you can relate; so let me explain.   I give my kid freedom he isn’t ready for it and then I don’t know how to take the freedom away without a fight. I don’t think about the potential consequences of […]

3 Things to Consider with Rules and Consequences

Parents often ask me if I think a specific consequence is appropriate for a given situation with their kids.  They wonder if it is too harsh or too lenient or tied enough to the offense.  Inevitably the conversation transpires into the “rules” that have been established and why they are there. The question I typically ask is […]