How Important Is It That My Teens Clean Their Room?

Whether or not to make a teen clean their room is a topic that almost always comes to the surface whenever I lead parenting groups.  There are usually parents in both camps–‘it’s not a hill worth dying on’ versus the ‘I can’t stand the mess’ moms. Do you just close the door and hope that […]

Are You Making Sense of Your Truth for Your Kids?

Dare 30 - Taking Off the Mask

I remember a time when my kids were excited about extended family coming to our house to stay for a week.  It was an annual occurrence that would be a happy yet dreaded time of the year for me.  On the one hand, I was looking forward to the time to reconnect, but as time […]

Learning to Anticipate What’s Next

Dare 23

I spoke to a mom of a new college student just a few weeks ago.  Her daughter had just come home from college for Christmas break for the first time.  The mom was joy-filled at getting to see her daughter for a couple of weeks, but she talked about how stressful it was on the […]

Is Your Home Filled With Laughter?

Dare 15 With All Due Respect

When our kids are little it is easy to laugh at the cute things they say and do.  Even during those early years of school we watch with excitement as they encounter new experiences and are filled with wonder.  And then as our kids become tweens and teens the climate in most homes changes.  Instead […]

You Want Me to Respect My Kid?

Dare #6

Just the idea that we should respect our kids can rile any parent.  After all, what we really want is for our kids to respect us and typically that doesn’t happen often as our kids move into the teen years.   Many have told me it is counter cultural, and as one mom put it, counter instinctive. […]

Are You Helping or Enabling Your Kids?

4 ways to move from enabling to helping

Most of us would do anything for our kids.  We want them to be happy.  We want them to say we were always there for them.  We want them to be successful in school, in sports, and in relationships.  Our desire is for our kids to be the best they can be and compete at […]