Rules and Consequences Not Working?

Dare 16 - Learn to Pause

A very wise counselor said to me one time, “If it isn’t a matter of life and death, it doesn’t need to be fixed right now.” Oh, I wish I had heard those words years before and really grasped the true meaning. The most common thing I hear from parents is that a kid knows the consequence […]

How Do You Want to be Remembered as a Parent?

Dare 3

This has been a contemplative time for me as a parent.  Dealing with my own daughter’s death and thinking through her life, God has brought to mind many of my parenting interactions — the good, the bad, and the ugly.  There are many of those thoughts where I got it right in my parenting interactions, yet there […]

How to Get Your Kid’s Attention When They Aren’t Listening

Part 2 of 2 -- When you see addictive behaviors in your kids

Last week I gave you two homework assignments.  If you didn’t see them, you can read about them here.  How did you do?  If you were able to complete them, especially the one about remaining silent when your kids weren’t listening, pat yourself on the back — well done! I talk to moms all the time […]

My Teen is having Sex!

4 Things to Consider When You Learn the Truth...

For most of us the words “My Teen is having Sex!” would send us spiraling into terror.  Our pulse would race, we’d be gasping for air, and most likely our minds would go into that world of “What If’s”. We’d start blaming ourselves for what we didn’t teach our kid or what we did wrong in […]

Dare 21 – The Respect Dare – Another Request?!? For Parents of 20-Somethings

Standing in the laundry room after a few days out of town, Anita was amazed at the piles of laundry that still needed washed, dried, folded, and put away. “This will take me hours!” she voiced to no one who could hear. Having just moved the second load into the washer, she was wistfully looking […]

Dare 20 – The Respect Dare – How do I Respect My 20-Something?

I was absolutely elated! The phone call had finally come! “We’ve been able to move your son’s appointment up to July. Will that work?” “Absolutely! You really did get him in for July? This is great! I was beginning to doubt this would even be a possibility! Thank you.” As I started listening to the […]