Do You Discipline Your Teen Too Quickly?

I tend to be an observer of relationship interactions and the event gave me plenty to ponder.  I saw it happening and wanted to call a halt in the middle of it, but it certainly wasn’t my place.  I turned away–embarrassed for this young man and embarrassed for his father.   It was intermission and Dad […]

Does Your Church Youth Group Offer Acceptance or Judgment?

Keeping our kids in church through the teen and twenty-something years requires many factors.  Peer friendships, adult community, and relevance to our teen’s world being several pieces to the pie. Finding an accepting environment is also critical in the process. Shaunti Feldhaun’s research  attempted to get into our teen’s head to understand them better.  The information […]

How Do You Stack Up in the Affection Department?

As my kids get older, I’m realizing that I’m not quite as affectionate as I used to be.  After all, they know that I love them–right? When they were younger, it was easy to give them a kiss on top of their head as I wiped jelly off their face, or hold them in my […]

Rules and Consequences Not Working?

Dare 16 - Learn to Pause

A very wise counselor said to me one time, “If it isn’t a matter of life and death, it doesn’t need to be fixed right now.” Oh, I wish I had heard those words years before and really grasped the true meaning. The most common thing I hear from parents is that a kid knows the consequence […]

What Culture Do You Need to Counter with Your Teens?

Dare # 9

We are all familiar with the warnings that are written to parents about the need to counter the American culture with our kids.  Cell phones, gaming, clothing styles, piercings, tattoos, parties, friend’s, and the amount of freedom we give all come under scrutiny as we try to raise Christian kids in a culture that sometimes goes against […]

3 Things to Consider with Rules and Consequences

Parents often ask me if I think a specific consequence is appropriate for a given situation with their kids.  They wonder if it is too harsh or too lenient or tied enough to the offense.  Inevitably the conversation transpires into the “rules” that have been established and why they are there. The question I typically ask is […]