The word validation has been cropping up everywhere I turn for the past two weeks. It’s something that I’ve struggled with for years. I always thought empathy and validation were essentially the same thing. I tended to be pretty good on the empathy front so I assumed that my empathy was in fact validating my […]
The phone had been silent for several days and Shannon began to worry. Silence usually meant something was going on that her daughter didn’t want her to know about. Silence meant whatever was happening was something that her daughter knew she wouldn’t approve of. Silence meant this chasm would widen, the earth would give way, […]
Melanie lay across the university lawn excited yet tentative. She couldn’t wait until finals were over…one more to go and she would be finished with the semester. Yet she wasn’t ready to leave the university. She loved the comradery of being with the other kids not to mention the independence of doing what she wanted […]
“F-You,” came the shocking words flung in anger from her 12 year old son. It was the first time his mom had heard words like that come out of his mouth.
As we contemplate the new year and what will be different, maybe we should think about our parenting and what legacy we are creating. What gift do we want our kids to hold on to that can’t be wrapped in a box? Sitting in a doctor’s office, I was surprised to find out that we […]
A friend and I used to joke about our spiritual gift of driving when our kids were teen. Hauling kids from school or activities can be a great opportunity to connect with them. However, sometimes our teens can take advantage of our generosity. Several years ago, I had a mother share with me her dilemma. […]