Does Fear Drive You to Control?

Dare 37

Sitting in the driver’s seat of our son’s 1996 Camry in rush hour traffic, I could feel the shift of the engine revving up.  I was sitting on an exit ramp with nowhere to go.  Even with my foot on the brake, the minute I let up to inch forward I could feel the car […]

Identity Crisis?

Dare 27

One of our jobs as parents is to nurture our kid’s sense of identity.  Through the time we spend with them our kids learn who they are, what they’re good at, as well as our family’s belief system.  They develop a mental image of who they are as they receive feedback from the world around […]

Where Does Your Mind Go When it Comes to Your Kids?

Dare 20

Most of the women in our groups love to talk about Dare 20.  Often they think, “Thank goodness my child would never do that”. In my experience there are two types of moms–those who think the best and those who think the worst.  And know that it matters in the relationship that you want to […]

Are You Creating Conflict Triangles?

Dare 11 -- Owning What is Ours to Own

Sitting in a counselor’s office as an early 30-something, I remember the psychologist introducing me to the conflict triangle.  It appeared that I had been part of one since childhood without even understanding how I was participating.  What I discovered was that when the two people in my life were in conflict, I was the emotional support for […]

Are You Demanding Respect?

Often I get questions from moms asking how to get their kids to respect them.  I hear the anguish in their voice as they talk about the disobedience, the yelling, the consequence, and then more yelling.  I absolutely can relate.  I’ve been there too many times myself wishing things had not gotten so out of control. […]

4 Things Parents Can Do When Their Teens Complain About Church

Seven Ways to Keep Your Tweens and Teens From Walking Away From the Church (Conclusion)

  Keeping our teens in church can sometimes be a major point of stress for Christian parents.  We realize the value of worship with other believers but we want our kids to find that same purpose for their lives.  When our teens start rebelling about getting up on Sunday morning or complaining that it is boring or […]