Does Fear Drive You to Control?

Sitting in the driver’s seat of our son’s 1996 Camry in rush hour traffic, I could feel the shift of the engine revving up.  I was sitting on an exit ramp with nowhere to go.  Even with my foot on the brake, the minute I let up to inch forward I could feel the car […]

When Your Kids Are Angry at You

And When You Mess Up As a Parent

It didn’t take long for me to realize that my kid was still angry at me.  Sitting at the breakfast table there was no small-talk to be had.  Focused on the food in front of her, I sensed the “I’m not going to acknowledge you” communication. It had all started innocently, but had become a […]

Do You Discipline Your Teen Too Quickly?

I tend to be an observer of relationship interactions and the event gave me plenty to ponder.  I saw it happening and wanted to call a halt in the middle of it, but it certainly wasn’t my place.  I turned away–embarrassed for this young man and embarrassed for his father.   It was intermission and Dad […]

Learning to Listen Our Kid’s Way

Several years ago I remember a distinct day of listening and trying to walk beside two of my kids in a way that they needed.  What I discovered as I interacted with my 20-somethings that they both needed me in different ways.  What worked for one didn’t work for the other. I caught myself opening […]

How Do Your Kids See Christmas?

I had an interesting exchange (or maybe it’s better termed as frustrating discussion) with one of my kids this week that makes me wonder how I could have been so blind. We were talking about Christmas.  Christmas for me is all about the surprise.  I typically choose to toss out a few gift ideas to […]

Should I Share My Shame-Filled Secrets With My Teens?

Let’s face it, we all have regrets from the past.  Those deep places in our very soul that tend to haunt us from time to time.  They rear their ugly head at the worst possible moment. These are the things we hold on tightly to, hoping that no one will ever find out the truth. […]