Owning What Is Ours To Own

Relationship Triangles

Sitting in a counselor’s office as an early 30-something, I remember the psychologist introducing me to the conflict triangle.  It appeared that I had been part of one since childhood without even understanding how I was participating.  What I discovered was that when the two people in my life were in conflict, I was the emotional support for both […]

Are You Thinking of the Next Stage in Parenting?

My husband and I did something totally out of the ordinary last weekend.  We went to a retirement symposium.  Even though we aren’t ready to retire quite yet, we are “thinking” about it.  Of course, the main focus of the seminar was all about financial stability and being able to have our dream retirement.  But […]

Are You Coaching Toward Adulthood?

A friend of mine sent me a text this week –“She is crazy in love with the baby, but slow on the ‘adulting’.” A 20-something shows up at my house with no socks for the weekend, “Oh, I haven’t done laundry for over a month.” And a high school junior looks at mom and says, […]

Helping Our Kids Gain Perspective

Talking with a mom the other day, I smiled realizing that she needed a dose of perspective.  It was hard for her to understand the difficulty another mother was having in raising her kids.  “If only she would __________, her son wouldn’t act that way.  It’s her own fault.  As expected, this mom espoused the […]