Sitting in a counselor’s office as an early 30-something, I remember the psychologist introducing me to the conflict triangle. It appeared that I had been part of one since childhood without even understanding how I was participating. What I discovered was that when the two people in my life were in conflict, I was the emotional support for both […]
Last week I felt like everything I did for one of my kids was met with sarcasm, frustration, or anger. The typical jokes we had between us, the acts of kindness I did, and every time I seemed to open my mouth it was met with a snarl of “you never…” or “you always…”. […]
The phone had been silent for several days and Shannon began to worry. Silence usually meant something was going on that her daughter didn’t want her to know about. Silence meant whatever was happening was something that her daughter knew she wouldn’t approve of. Silence meant this chasm would widen, the earth would give way, […]
If you have tweens and teens, at one time or another you’ve probably seen that warlike seething that sometimes seems to explode even when asked to do what you think is a simple request. Or maybe you see it in your spouse and don’t quite understand it. How do you respond when you ask someone to […]
It didn’t take long for me to realize that my kid was still angry at me. Sitting at the breakfast table there was no small-talk to be had. Focused on the food in front of her, I sensed the “I’m not going to acknowledge you” communication. It had all started innocently, but had become a […]
“F-You,” came the shocking words flung in anger from her 12 year old son. It was the first time his mom had heard words like that come out of his mouth.