6 Steps to Help Validate Your Kids

The word validation has been cropping up everywhere I turn for the past two weeks.  It’s something that I’ve struggled with for years.  I always thought empathy and validation were essentially the same thing.  I tended to be pretty good on the empathy front so I assumed that my empathy was in fact validating my […]

Changing Our Communication with Our Teens

Misty caught herself doing it again. But this time she knew what she had done it all wrong. She could fix it if she could think through the steps calmly. She knew she needed to change her communication with her 14 year old son, but she was just so emotional where he was concerned. He […]

When Our Kids Are Angry At Us

Dealing with Their Emotions

I remember the event vividly.  One of my sons did something that that had me questioning whether I could trust him.  He had done something that was against our family rules; it was something that could have negative consequences to him and we had been explicit in explaining the reason for our decree. But he […]

What Gift Will You Give Your Kids This Year?

5 Things You Might Consider

As we contemplate the new year and what will be different, maybe we should think about our parenting and what legacy we are creating.  What gift do we want our kids to hold on to that can’t be wrapped in a box?   Sitting in a doctor’s office, I was surprised to find out that we […]

What Makes a Good Mom?

30 Things to Consider

When I’m in the depths of despair with one of my kids, frustrated with their choices, and wishing things could be different, sometimes I have no idea what being a good mom really looks like.  I vacillate with what the right decision should be in the moment and it’s easy to get down on myself–after […]

Emotionally Supporting Our Kids

I remember it well.  The phone call, I mean.  Mrs. Hitchcock, this is Sargent (whatever his name) from the police department.  I’ll admit, I’m not sure at that moment if I caught all the details.  All I remember was the pause after I hung up with him. My husband was standing nearby and must have […]