Learning to Listen Our Kid’s Way

Several years ago I remember a distinct day of listening and trying to walk beside two of my kids in a way that they needed.  What I discovered as I interacted with my 20-somethings that they both needed me in different ways.  What worked for one didn’t work for the other. I caught myself opening […]

Am I a Good Listener?

As 24 year old Annie stood at work bored and waiting for the close of her shift at the local mall to end, she thought the next hour couldn’t come soon enough. Snow was supposedly swirling outside with the anticipation of another few inches and all she could think about was curling up at her […]

Why Validation is SO Important

The word validation has been cropping up everywhere I turn for the past two weeks and it is a piece of Dare 13.  It’s something that I’ve struggled with for years.  I always thought empathy and validation were essentially the same thing.  I tended to be pretty good on the empathy front so I assumed that […]

Tired of the Shouting Match?

Dare 35 - Getting to Heart of Your Kids' Feelings

Getting to the bottom of our emotional reactions to our kids can be difficult.  The heat of the moment can cause us to do things we said we would never do. And it has taken me a long time to understand these reactions even in myself.  Years, in fact.  If I’m feeling something going on […]

Too Busy for Relationship?

Dare 31 - 4 Ways to be in Your Child's "NOW"

Standing in the kitchen I was focused on fixing dinner when my teen walked through the back door.  Barely looking up, I asked my son how his day went and continued pealing potatoes for the evening meal.  He sat down at the kitchen island and rambled on about all the things that had happened during […]

Rules and Consequences Not Working?

Dare 16 - Learn to Pause

A very wise counselor said to me one time, “If it isn’t a matter of life and death, it doesn’t need to be fixed right now.” Oh, I wish I had heard those words years before and really grasped the true meaning. The most common thing I hear from parents is that a kid knows the consequence […]