Why Validation is SO Important

The word validation has been cropping up everywhere I turn for the past two weeks and it is a piece of Dare 13.  It’s something that I’ve struggled with for years.  I always thought empathy and validation were essentially the same thing.  I tended to be pretty good on the empathy front so I assumed that […]

Tired of the Shouting Match?

Dare 35 - Getting to Heart of Your Kids' Feelings

Getting to the bottom of our emotional reactions to our kids can be difficult.  The heat of the moment can cause us to do things we said we would never do. And it has taken me a long time to understand these reactions even in myself.  Years, in fact.  If I’m feeling something going on […]

Too Busy for Relationship?

Dare 31 - 4 Ways to be in Your Child's "NOW"

Standing in the kitchen I was focused on fixing dinner when my teen walked through the back door.  Barely looking up, I asked my son how his day went and continued pealing potatoes for the evening meal.  He sat down at the kitchen island and rambled on about all the things that had happened during […]

Rules and Consequences Not Working?

Dare 16 - Learn to Pause

A very wise counselor said to me one time, “If it isn’t a matter of life and death, it doesn’t need to be fixed right now.” Oh, I wish I had heard those words years before and really grasped the true meaning. The most common thing I hear from parents is that a kid knows the consequence […]

How Do You Want to be Remembered as a Parent?

Dare 3

This has been a contemplative time for me as a parent.  Dealing with my own daughter’s death and thinking through her life, God has brought to mind many of my parenting interactions — the good, the bad, and the ugly.  There are many of those thoughts where I got it right in my parenting interactions, yet there […]

How to Get Your Kid’s Attention When They Aren’t Listening

Part 2 of 2 -- When you see addictive behaviors in your kids

Last week I gave you two homework assignments.  If you didn’t see them, you can read about them here.  How did you do?  If you were able to complete them, especially the one about remaining silent when your kids weren’t listening, pat yourself on the back — well done! I talk to moms all the time […]